The Down & Dirty - Money Shots

A Candid Commentary

What are your thoughts on a good cumshot? And yes, I am really asking that. 

Let’s get personal… I love a good cumshot (I have my preferred places in which said cumshot hits, but we will get to that later). The reason I ask is because lately, there seems to be something in the air, and I’ve had more in-person conversations about sex and porn than I have in a long time. 

Granted, in my professional life as a sexologist and kink educator, I have these conversations with clients frequently. But, in those conversations, it's geared to helping people feel more comfortable with themselves and embrace their sexuality so they can have a greater sense of pleasure in their lives and with their partner(s). It’s educating and holding space for them to talk and for me to listen while offering resources and perspectives. 

In other words, it's not the same as the down-and-dirty conversation you have with your best friend about a recent three-way you had. 

And frankly, I’ve missed writing (and talking) about sex in the same way. I’ve spent decades as a researcher and publishing case studies to the point of pure burnout. Honestly, I just need some juicy, filthy conversations with friends sometimes. 

And maybe the universe sensed it, too. 

Lately, the conversations and situations I’ve found myself in have sparked that desire to get back to writing about sex for FUN and not just the academics of it. I want to let the raw and often hidden sides of it come out. 

And you know what? After my recent experiences, the combination of excitement, pleasure, and collective relief that comes from those down-and-dirty, raw, and real conversations is the bliss I didn’t know I needed. 

Which brings me back to the topic at hand: cumshots. 

My partner and I have been lucky enough to get to know a group of other regulars while chilling at our favorite hangout. Over time, the typical questions tend to come up, and the one that I always get a little nervous about is “What do you do?”

Depending on how well I’ve gotten to know someone and the vibe of the conversation, I may sugarcoat things with, “I’m a relationship coach and freelance writer.” Not a lie, but not exactly going into the details of being a Sexologist with some specialties in kink, BDSM, and creating spicy content. 

Over several months of casual conversations and great food, we’ve gotten to know this group pretty well. So, when the question was asked, I was honest and said, “I’m a sexologist and kink educator.”

I braced for one of two outcomes I typically see… I either get a mountain of questions about what that means, and it turns into a full-on private education session about alternative relationships and the elements of D/s and power-exchange dynamics, or everyone opening up and dishing about all our kinks and sexcapades. 

To my very pleasant surprise, it was the latter, and the conversations that ensued were exactly the juicy gab-fest we needed.

I’ve always felt that if you can talk openly, without shame, about sex and kinks, the friendship built around that level of honesty and acceptance is unparalleled. 

As the night went on, I was thrilled when the conversation, very organically, turned to one of my favorite subjects: porn (I’m rarely the one that brings it up, but when it comes up, I am as giddy as the first time I got a vibrator). 

Why? I am a massive nerd when it comes to sex statistics, and the topic of porn tends to lead not only Rule 34, but the delicious stats that a certain hub puts out each year that includes every possible sextistic about watching porn you can imagine. 

It was at this point I realized my preferences are either outside the norm or the idea that a woman likes to see a guy jerk off and end in a massive load on her is still a taboo idea. 

But, the more I dug around the interwebs, the more it became clear that I was not alone in enjoying a solid glazing of the body of an eager participant. 

Now, I know it’s not nearly as uncommon as the general population might believe (as most kinks tend to be). But, it certainly isn’t talked about as much, and I’d like to give a little spotlight to the money shot. 

According to Porn Hub’s 2023 stats, the “Solo Male” category was up 85% with women to the previous year. Clearly, the desire for nut videos is growing.

So what is it about a cumshot?

Well, for me, orgasms are sexy. The juicier, the better. 

And dicks have the ability to swell to steel-like cum-shooting canons. What can I say… it just gets me going. And, hearing that primal growl mixed with a lust-filled O face is just hot. 

Now, when I’m talking about porn, my personal preference isn’t just a compilation video of one shot after another (if we are talking about a good squirting compilation or body-shaking female orgasms, that's a whole different situation… rack ‘em up!). 

But frankly, when it comes to solo cumshots or a sexy needy nymph getting painted with ropes of cum, I’m a bit more particular. 

I need to hear a guy talk dirty while he jerks it or while he’s fucking. I need to see the intensity grow and hear the breathing get hot and needy. Hearing a guy slipping in and out of a wet pussy, or yes, the fapping of his solo strokes, is a turn-on (at least for me… and clearly several hundred thousand others on the subreddit, AudioGoneWild.) 

Now, mind you, I’m talking strictly as a spectator of the visual artistry that is the cumshot here. 

I do love to get painted myself, but when it comes to my own personal preferences for how my partner finishes on me, I’m pretty set on how I like it.

The truth is, it's my favorite part of a good fuck after I’ve come several times myself. I feel appreciated and frankly, like a goddess getting a glorious tribute.  

So, let's talk about the many ways to shoot the money shot: